{"id":269,"date":"2010-04-10T01:10:40","date_gmt":"2010-04-10T01:10:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/doktoryilmazbay.wordpress.com\/?p=269"},"modified":"2017-06-13T12:03:22","modified_gmt":"2017-06-13T12:03:22","slug":"cocuklarda-saldirganlik","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.doktoryilmazbay.com\/cocuklarda-saldirganlik\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7OCUKLARDA\u00a0SALDIRGANLIK"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sald\u0131rgan \u00e7ocuk; ailesi, \u00e7evresi, ya\u015f\u0131tlar\u0131 ve arkada\u015flar\u0131 ile uyumlu ili\u015fki kuramayan \u00e7ocuktur. Evde ve okulda s\u00fcrekli problem \u00e7\u0131kart\u0131r. Kavgac\u0131d\u0131r, ge\u00e7imsizdir, kurallar\u0131 \u00e7i\u011fner. Etraf\u0131ndaki, \u00e7evresindeki insanlara s\u00fcrekli fiziksel zararlar verir. Baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar da etrafa fiziksel zarar vermez ancak vurdulu k\u0131rd\u0131l\u0131 oyunlardan ho\u015flan\u0131r; oyunlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015fmancad\u0131r, oyun arkada\u015flar\u0131na zarar verebilir ve bu \u00e7e\u015fit davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 s\u00fcrekli tekrarlarlar. Bu da bir \u00e7e\u015fit sald\u0131rganl\u0131kt\u0131r.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Sald\u0131rganl\u0131k asl\u0131nda bireyin ya\u015famas\u0131 i\u00e7in gerekli temel i\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fclerden birisidir. Bebeklikte sald\u0131rganl\u0131\u011fa e\u011filimli \u00e7ocuklar istekleri yerine getirilmedi\u011finde ya da engellendi\u011finde s\u00fcrekli a\u011flar, ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131r, di\u015flerini kenetler, tepinir, terler, solu\u011funu tutar hatta morar\u0131r, bezende alt\u0131n\u0131 \u0131slat\u0131r. Biraz b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde istekleri engellendi\u011finde elindekini yere atar, vurur, k\u0131rar, \u0131s\u0131r\u0131r, yere yat\u0131p u\u011funarak a\u011flamaya ba\u015flar, bazen de kendi sa\u00e7\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 yolar, ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 duvarlara ve yerlere vurur, kendine zarar vermeye ba\u015flar. Bunlar\u0131n hepsi sald\u0131rganl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ya\u015fla birlikte \u00e7ocuktan \u00e7ocu\u011fa de\u011fi\u015fen d\u0131\u015fa vurum \u015fekilleridir.<\/p>\n<p>Aile i\u00e7i e\u011fitim, okul e\u011fitimi, i\u015f ya\u015fant\u0131s\u0131, toplumsal ya\u015fam normalde her bireyde var olan bu sald\u0131rganl\u0131\u011f\u0131n t\u00f6rp\u00fclenmesine, yumu\u015fat\u0131lmas\u0131na, olumluya \u00e7evrilmesine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 SALDIRGANLI\u011eA YOL A\u00c7AN NEDENLER.<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Evde, okulda, \u00e7evresinde sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 olan insanlar\u0131n olmas\u0131,<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011fun aile i\u00e7i \u015fiddete tan\u0131kl\u0131k etmesi ya da bizzat \u015fiddet g\u00f6rmesi,<\/li>\n<li>\u0130lgi ve sevgi eksikli\u011fi,<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011fun \u00f6z g\u00fcvenden yoksun olmas\u0131,<\/li>\n<li>Doyumsuzluk ve ho\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcden yoksun olma,<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011fun d\u00fcrt\u00fclerini dizginleyememesi<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011fun do\u011fu\u015ftan ya da sonradan organik bir rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n olmas\u0131,<\/li>\n<li>Zihinsel bir hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131n olmas\u0131,<\/li>\n<li>Anne \u2013Baba ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131,<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011fun anne ve baba ile yeterli ve dengeli bir ileti\u015fim kuramamas\u0131,<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011fun s\u00fcrekli bask\u0131 ve k\u0131s\u0131tlamalarla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmas\u0131, Evde a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 bask\u0131 g\u00f6ren \u00e7ocuk; biriken \u00f6fkesini d\u0131\u015far\u0131da a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa vurur.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011fa s\u0131n\u0131r konulmamas\u0131 ya da konulan s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fa yeterince anlat\u0131lmamas\u0131,<\/li>\n<li>Evde ya da okulda bir birleri ile uyumlu olmayan de\u011fi\u015fik mesajlar\u0131n verilmesi. (\u00f6rne\u011fin annenin evet dedi\u011fine baban\u0131n hay\u0131r demesi ya da okul ile aile aras\u0131ndaki mesaj farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131)<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011fun daha \u00f6nce sergiledi\u011fi sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n aile bireyleri taraf\u0131ndan \u00f6d\u00fcllendirilmi\u015f olmas\u0131,<\/li>\n<li>Televizyon, bilgisayar, internet, CD gibi \u00e7a\u011fda\u015f ileti\u015fim ara\u00e7lar\u0131 da e\u011fer kontrols\u00fcz kullan\u0131l\u0131rsa sald\u0131rganl\u0131\u011f\u0131 art\u0131rabilir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>SALDIRGAN B\u0130R \u00c7OCUKTA NE YAPILAB\u0130L\u0130R?<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u00d6ncelikle anne ve babalar davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 ile \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na \u00f6rnek olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n bulundu\u011fu ortamlarda kavga etmemeli, sert tart\u0131\u015fmalardan ka\u00e7\u0131nmal\u0131 ve asla bir birlerine fiziksel \u015fiddet g\u00f6stermemelidirler.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocuk sald\u0131rgan bir davran\u0131\u015f g\u00f6sterdi\u011finde anne- babalar \u00f6ncelikle sakin olmal\u0131. \u00c7ocu\u011fu dinlemeli, ondan yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 sakince anlatmas\u0131 istenmelidir.<\/li>\n<li>Yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n normal olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131, bunun etraf\u0131na ve arkada\u015flar\u0131na zarar\u0131 dokunabilece\u011fi, kendisine ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde davran\u0131l\u0131rsa kendisinin de bunu onaylamayaca\u011f\u0131 ona sakin bir \u015fekilde anlat\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/li>\n<li>Sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 nedeni ile \u00e7ocu\u011fa kesinlikle dayak at\u0131lmamal\u0131, fiziksel cezalar verilmemelidir. B\u00f6yle davran\u0131\u015flar \u00e7ocukta d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131k hissini geli\u015ftirerek ileride sald\u0131rganl\u0131\u011f\u0131n patlama \u015fekline ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131na neden olabilir.<\/li>\n<li>Anne ve babalar; her f\u0131rsatta sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n topluma zararlar\u0131n\u0131, olumlu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n ise topluma yararlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6rnekleri ile birlikte \u00e7ocu\u011funa anlatmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/li>\n<li>Anne ve babalar sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015flar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda vurdumduymazl\u0131k yapmamal\u0131 tolerans g\u00f6stermemeli, asla taviz vermemelidirler.<\/li>\n<li>\u0130ki \u00e7ocuk aras\u0131nda oyun esnas\u0131nda olu\u015fabilecek anla\u015fmazl\u0131kta taraf tutulmamal\u0131, m\u00fcdahale edilmemeli, en iyisi sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 kendilerinin \u00e7\u00f6zmeleri i\u00e7in onlara f\u0131rsat verilmeli. \u00c7ocuklar daha kat\u0131l\u0131mca ve daha payla\u015f\u0131mc\u0131 oyunlara y\u00f6nlendirilmelidir.<\/li>\n<li>Sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n alt\u0131nda yatan nedenler ara\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmal\u0131. Su\u00e7lay\u0131c\u0131, yarg\u0131lay\u0131c\u0131, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lay\u0131c\u0131, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i tutumlardan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/li>\n<li>Televizyon, CD, internet ve bilgisayar gibi kitle ileti\u015fim ara\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 sald\u0131rganl\u0131k y\u00f6n\u00fcnden olumsuz etkilemesine izin verilmemeli. \u015eiddet i\u00e7erikli oyunlar ve g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcler izletilmemelidir.<\/li>\n<li>Anne ve babalar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na yeterli ilgi, sevgi ve anlay\u0131\u015f ve ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcy\u00fc g\u00f6stermelidirler.<\/li>\n<li>Sald\u0131rgan \u00e7ocuklar, spora y\u00f6nlendirilmeli, \u00f6zelikle toplu etkinlilere kat\u0131lmas\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00f6zendirilmeli. \u00c7ocuk okula gidiyorsa okulun voleybol, basketbol, futbol tak\u0131mlar\u0131nda yer almas\u0131 sa\u011flanmal\u0131 ya da k\u00fclt\u00fcrel etkinliklere; halk oyunlar\u0131na, dansa, drama ya y\u00f6nlendirilmelidir. \u0130zcilik, gezi, foto\u011fraf\u00e7\u0131l\u0131k, satran\u00e7 ta y\u00f6nlendirilecek ilgi alanlar\u0131 aras\u0131nda olabilir.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocukta a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015flar g\u00f6zlendi\u011finde \u00f6n\u00fcne yumruklayaca\u011f\u0131 bir kum torbas\u0131, makasla kesme i\u015flemi yapabilece\u011fi k\u00e2\u011f\u0131t ya da bezler koyulmal\u0131d\u0131r.Bir tahtaya \u00e7ivi \u00e7akmas\u0131 i\u00e7in eline bir \u00e7eki\u00e7 vermek bazen onun enerjisinin bo\u015falmas\u0131na i\u00e7in yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011fun ya\u015f\u0131na uygun g\u00f6rev ve sorumluluk vermekte enerjisini olumlu y\u00f6nde kullanmas\u0131nda etkili olabilir.<\/li>\n<li>Sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 nedeni ile bir e\u015fyaya zarar verdi ise; bu zarar\u0131 har\u00e7l\u0131klar\u0131ndan biriktirerek kar\u015f\u0131lamas\u0131 istenmelidir.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011fun \u00f6fkesini sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015flarda bulunmadan bo\u015faltmas\u0131 \u00f6zendirilmeli. \u00d6rne\u011fin; d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p ko\u015fabilir, m\u00fczik dinleyebilir, dans edebilir odas\u0131nda e\u015fyalara zarar vermeden ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131p \u00e7a\u011f\u0131rabilir. Bunu yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u00e7ocuk \u00f6d\u00fcllendirilmelidir.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocuk sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n normal kar\u015f\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya da \u00f6zendirildi\u011fi ortamlardan uzak tutulmal\u0131, sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 olan arkada\u015flar\u0131 varsa m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca bir araya gelmeleri engellenmelidir.<\/li>\n<li>Aile i\u00e7i sert disiplin uygulamalar\u0131 ve kat\u0131 kurallardan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmal\u0131 ancak bu \u00e7ocu\u011fun her istedi\u011fini yapabilece\u011fi \u015feklinde alg\u0131lanmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Anne ve baba disiplin konusunda anla\u015fmal\u0131 ortak bir tutum sergilemeli, tutarl\u0131 ve kararl\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar.<\/li>\n<li>Sald\u0131rgan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca geni\u015f guruplarla olan etkinliklere kat\u0131lmalar\u0131 sa\u011flanmal\u0131. Bu guruplarda ona etkin g\u00f6rev ve sorumluluklar vererek enerjisini olumlu y\u00f6nde bo\u015faltmas\u0131 sa\u011flanmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>S\u00d6Z\u00dcN \u00d6Z\u00dc: <\/strong>\u00d6z\u00fcnde sevgi olan t\u00fcm y\u00f6ntemler denenebilir. Her ko\u015fulda onu; sevdi\u011finizi ve daima sevece\u011finizi s\u00f6zlerinizle ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zla g\u00f6stermelisiniz Sonunda \u00e7ocu\u011funuzla birlikte kendi do\u011frular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 kendiniz bulacaks\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Bol sab\u0131rlar!<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Dr. YILMAZ BAY<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00c7ocuk Sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve Hastal\u0131klar\u0131 Uzman\u0131<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sald\u0131rgan \u00e7ocuk; ailesi, \u00e7evresi, ya\u015f\u0131tlar\u0131 ve arkada\u015flar\u0131 ile uyumlu ili\u015fki kuramayan \u00e7ocuktur. Evde ve okulda s\u00fcrekli problem \u00e7\u0131kart\u0131r. Kavgac\u0131d\u0131r, ge\u00e7imsizdir, kurallar\u0131 \u00e7i\u011fner. Etraf\u0131ndaki, \u00e7evresindeki insanlara s\u00fcrekli fiziksel zararlar verir. Baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar da etrafa fiziksel zarar vermez ancak vurdulu k\u0131rd\u0131l\u0131 oyunlardan ho\u015flan\u0131r; oyunlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015fmancad\u0131r, oyun arkada\u015flar\u0131na zarar verebilir ve bu \u00e7e\u015fit<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[69],"class_list":["post-269","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-cocuk-sagligi","tag-saldirganlik"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.doktoryilmazbay.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/269","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.doktoryilmazbay.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.doktoryilmazbay.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.doktoryilmazbay.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.doktoryilmazbay.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=269"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"http:\/\/www.doktoryilmazbay.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/269\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2077,"href":"http:\/\/www.doktoryilmazbay.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/269\/revisions\/2077"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.doktoryilmazbay.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=269"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.doktoryilmazbay.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=269"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.doktoryilmazbay.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=269"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}